Sharing does not come naturally to children under the age of three. They are not developmentally ready to share. From a Montessori point of view, sharing should never be imposed upon a young child. We emphasize independence, self-directed learning, and respect for each child. As adults, it is our job to protect the concentration and focus of the children when they are deeply engrossed in an activity. It is also our responsibility to empower the children and model for them how to advocate for themselves and communicate effectively and respectfully with their peers.

Most of the activities in a Montessori classroom are set up for just one child at a time. All the materials are shared by all the children. However, each child is free to work as long as they’d like with any material. The children learn that if an activity is not present on the shelf, then it is unavailable. Once the activity is returned to the shelf, then it becomes available, and it can be another child’s “turn”.

Instead of forcing immediate sharing, Montessori teachers often encourage turn-taking. If a child is using a material or working on an activity, another child might be asked to wait or observe until it’s their turn. This approach helps children develop patience and understand the concept of taking turns.

Throughout the day, you will hear many murmurs of  “This is my work” and “I’m using this right now”, as well as “May I take a turn?” It is important for children to feel comfortable saying ‘no’ and also to respect when others do, too.

Forcing children to share may unintentionally send the message to the child that their needs and opinions don’t matter. Often, children also learn that crying or throwing a tantrum is a way to immediately get what they want.

The goal of Montessori education is to support the child’s development of social skills in a respectful and individualized manner. While sharing is an important aspect of social development, it is approached in a manner that aligns with the child’s natural development and readiness to understand and practice this skill. It is exciting to observe the children’s growth in both patience and confidence (and, down the road, empathy).

With all the rain over the past week, we had to find ways to have fun and move our bodies indoors. We played in the gym – used hula hoops, balls, stacked cones, climbed on foam blocks, and enjoyed running safely in the wide open space. In the classroom, we danced with scarves and used a salad spinner to paint!

We finished sampling red, green, and yellow apples. Do you know which type your child likes best? The yellow received the most requests for “more, please!”

The children enjoyed arranging flowers to add beauty to our classroom.

We’ve been singing a variety of songs – they love ‘Baa Baa Black Sheep’ and ‘Cluck Cluck Red Hen,’ especially the exaggerated head nod as they say ‘yes’ in both songs. The children who stay for lunch have been listening to Dave Brubeck’s greatest hits while they eat. We’ve been listening for different instruments, and I’ve noticed a few children moving their bodies subtly to the music as it plays. 

We’ve been counting everything! We count the children when we line up, we count the animals on the pages of books, the beads we are stringing, the apples we are sorting, the number of times we push the salad spinner, and the list goes on!

This week, we tried red bell peppers. The children had been so used to having apples for the past three weeks that the pepper was quite a surprise! Throughout the week, we tried both cooked and raw. Raw was the clear favorite! 

We’ve had the same group of middle school students visiting on Wednesdays. The children eagerly greet them upon their arrival. Chloe and J.C. come first. When they leave, William joins us. Then Mia meets us on the playground. This program clearly benefits everyone involved. I’ve been pleasantly surprised to witness the interest and care between the toddlers and middle schoolers.

Enjoy the weekend with your families. We are looking forward to beginning a new week with your children on Tuesday!

Mrs. Sargeant & Ms. Lizette

 

 

“Help me to do it myself” is the core of the Montessori classroom. Maria Montessori said that these words reveal the inner needs of the child.

Maria Montessori once recounted an incident where she had given a nose-blowing lesson in front of a group of children at the Casa de Bambini. She observed that the children were fascinated by the lesson and expressed gratitude by clapping and thanking her afterward. This experience led her to realize the significance of teaching self-care to children. Dr. Montessori recognized that children have a natural inclination to learn and practice self-care tasks. She understood these skills are essential for preserving a child’s dignity and building self-esteem.

We encourage children to do things for themselves each day: hanging their backpacks, removing their shoes, washing their hands, dressing themselves, and even wiping or blowing their noses. Of course, jumping in and doing these tasks for the children is easier and quicker. However, the time spent teaching the children to do something independently will not only build their self-confidence and concentration but will eventually save time and increase your family’s happiness!

Since entering the season of colds and runny noses, we have been focused on showing the children how to use a tissue independently. If you’d like to encourage this at home, it is helpful to have an accessible tissue box and mirror. We have shown the children to pick one tissue from the box, look in the mirror, deliberately pinch their nostrils, and then pull it away. Next, they throw the tissue in the trash and wash their hands. It is truly heartwarming to see the pride in their smiles as they look back into the mirror and see a clean nose! These little people are remarkably capable.

Fostering independence in young children is a gradual process that evolves as they grow. It is essential to find a balance between providing support and allowing them to take on more responsibility as they become more capable. This approach helps them to develop the skills and confidence they need to become self-sufficient individuals.